When I fell in love with my husband I was not prepared for the difficulties of loving a man who was still deeply attached to his deceased partner. It seemed that every holiday, her birthday, their anniversary, dates that were connected to her diagnosis and passing and so many others were difficult for our relationship. I found that he was distracted and focused on the past, and not at all present with me.
In my mind I labeled those as "her days," the days that my husband was not emotionally available to me. In the early days of our relationship those were days that he exhibited a short fuse and impatience. Have you felt the same, sharing your friend, lover, partner with a ghost?
I found that there was not much help for me- it was an uncomfortable subject to talk about and the one book I found on the topic was not helpful for me. I believed (and believe) that my husband was the love of my life and I found ways to work within the framework of loving a partner who was not "all mine."
I can help you find ways to work within your framework too. You cannot change how he feels or behaves, but you can change the way you respond. You can find your happiness within this relationship just as I found mine.
I am now a Master Transformational Coach. I am able to help you look through a different lens at your current relationship with your widowed partner and help you find the happiness you deserve. You can learn to be fully present in your life and relationship, even when he is distracted. You can move powerfully and easily into your future, making choices and decisions from your healthiest place, with the strength and peace you need within your heart.
Imagine yourself free to be YOU!
Does stress and anxiety about your partner's next distraction impact your life and stop you from moving forward with purpose? Does fear of where your relationship is going limit you and prevent you from living the life you want and deserve?
Let's work together to help you develop a new perspective and gain the strength you need to rid yourself of limiting beliefs and thought distortions.
Ideal clients for transformational coaching are highly motivated to make lasting changes in their lives. They will show up for appointments, they will show up for themselves.
Transformational Coaching is available virtually and in person.
Reach out to me to schedule a free 30-minute call to see what we can do together to get you on your best path!
"Tianne is an amazing transformational coach to work with. She helped me to achieve my goal of speaking up easily and effortlessly.
I had developed a pattern of being a people pleaser in some relationships and not speaking up for myself. It made me feel guilty, upset, and resentful. After completing a breakthrough with Tianne I feel more confident, truthful, and good about speaking up for myself. Working with Tianne has changed my life." Monique
Your transformation is waiting!